Men Think They Are Funny
I never believed my father when he told me that men and women are
different. He tried to explain, but I was too young to understand
that his frustration at not being able to describe exactly why they were
different in truth explained everything.
There are those who suspect the difference lies hidden in our genetic
makeup. That may explain why men can ravage a bag of pork rinds
while women must turn away in disgust, but it sheds no light on why men
think they are funny while women know without a doubt that men simply
Let's take an example, say a man and a woman standing in line waiting to
get onto a ski lift. A man in the line next to them passes out and
collapses to the ground after having locked his knees for too long.
The woman will say, "I hope he's all right." The man will
say, "Boy, I'm glad we're not in that line." Given any
situation, the woman will empathize with the underdog. The man will
laugh at him.
This kind of humor is more than just perspective; for men, it's a matter
of social survival. Everything is competition in the world of men.
Women, when they get together, complement each other's hair or dress, and
while the complements may harbor vicious and catty undertones, at worst
they are accurate. If another guy complements me on my pants, I
freeze because it means either the hole in the crotch has gotten big
enough that other people can see it or that my fly is open or that I
wasn't very careful the last time I went to the bathroom or...
Simply put, this kind of thing is terrifying to hear from the lips of
another man. It's a very primitive but effective form of dominance.
Being funny is really a proactive form of self defense, saving men from
public disgrace while exposing potential rivals and all other men are
potential rivals to ridicule and scorn.
Often we men say things women think are dumb or stupid. Most of the
time, it's just us being genuine. When a guy says to a woman,
"Wow! I can't believe you just ate four tacos", he is not
calling her fat. It's an honest complement, and we really are
impressed at the feat. Women, on the other, tend to take life too
seriously. From a man's perspective, women are always taking each
other's feelings into account. Note that they only take each other's
feelings into account. Men, of course, don't have feelings.
When we say something innocent and honest ("Yes, that dress does make
you look fat") we suddenly find ourselves mercilessly raked over the
hot coals of guilt. And Heaven forbid we said it in a funny way.
It is not uncommon for a man often several times each day, in fact
to determine that he simply cannot hear what a woman has said to him.
It's not that he cannot physically hear but that he knows that he cannot
let himself hear without having to respond and get himself into trouble.
The pressure can be stifling. That's why guys need to be around
other guys from time to time. And that's why women always shake
their heads when they see guys around guys. We tell really bad jokes
and all laugh at them. Women don't understand it. What's
really happening is that us guys are giving each other support. We
tell bad jokes on purpose, just to prove that the joke isn't what matters.
It's all about being funny.
Men naturally think they're funny. Sometimes, women, you can catch
us laughing at our own jokes. Please don't ask us to explain.
Somehow when we have to try to put the joke into words, you force us to
expose the joke as being dumb and stupid. Of course, you are right
about the quality of the joke. But who cares if it is dumb and
stupid? Why did you have to tell us? And why did you have to
ruin the joke? Suddenly something that caused us to laugh, to have a
moment of pleasure in our lives, becomes cause for embarrassment.
That's why men claim to always be thinking about sex. It's just a
cover. What we're really smiling about is a great joke that only God
and ourselves will ever get. We can handle women being mad at us,
which is why we lie about thinking about sex. Telling the truth
that we thought of a funny joke is simply too painful.
Despite popular misconception, men do have feelings, and those feelings
are quite fragile. That a man is funny constitutes a critical part
of his self-confidence. Proving to him to that he is not funny is
even worse than counting how many tacos he eats. Women, if you love
your man, indulge his greatest fantasy tonight:
When he tells a joke, laugh.